I despair sometimes, I really do. A quick browse through social media or a quick flick around reality TV shows and my worst fears are confirmed: most people are fucking idiots. Drama, drama, drama. Seems nobody is happy unless some kind of crisis is threatening to ruin their lives. Why would anyone want to live like this? It’s a question I often ask myself. I also question who – or what – is to blame. Are people just bored? Are people simply argumentative? Is everyone mad?!
Of course, I do not know what the answer is. I have a theory, however, that soap operas have a very large part to play in these personal dramas that can be perpetually witnessed. A script writer on a soap has to invent ludicrous situations out of thin air. They have to create aggravation out of nothing. Arguing and Drama (with a capital D) are the order of the day.
So people sit there, glued to their boxes believing that this is how lives should be run. If you aren’t having a “beef” with your friend, relative, neighbour, you must be weak, meak and mild. Therefore, they search for problems and, instead of trying to resolve any issue they may have in a civilised manner, they just shout and scream a lot. Neither party is listening, nothing ever gets resolved and our world is filled with yet more hatred and venom.
Apart from being idiotic, it sets a bad example to their offspring. How many times have you been in a supermarket and witness a red-faced oaf yelling at their equally red-faced child who is bawling, like that will fix the problem. Perhaps, if you didn’t fill them so full of shit, they may not be off their tits on sugar and e-numbers. That kid will grow up thinking that is how grown ups behave.
Well, it isn’t. It’s how morons behave.
The same can be witnessed in romantic relationships. I have been with Vikki for over 16 years, at the time of writing. We’ve always had a good relationship and it is strong because, when a problem arises, we resolve it in a sensible manner. I am not saying there is never shouting, but there are never empty threats or wanton acts of dehumanisation. Ultimately, because we care for eachother, we don’t want to hurt eachother so, if there is a problem anywhere, we don’t immediately run off to shag someone else to teach the other a lesson.
If any of this sounds familiar to you, examine your actions. No relationships are perfect and all require nurturing; from the spouse to the neighbour and everyone in between. You don’t have to be a dick. Be reasonable, look at the other sides point-of-view, express your own, reach an amicable conclusion. Even better, wonder if it worth any kind of conflict at all.