I’m not a big believer in luck, it is the destroyer of ambition. I know this because it has lurked in my background, encouraging me to be a bit daft-slash-lazy at times in the hope that the one-in-a-million may happen without me having to lift a finger to encourage it. Of course, this never happens. Once you unburden yourself of … Read More
Don’t Dream It. BE It.
I was never a natural singer. As a kid, I would sing along to my favourite pop songs but no-one ever stopped me in my tracks to comment on how good my voice was. I could sing in tune, but I had no style, no control, no technique. When I decided that I wanted to be a singer, aged about … Read More
Challenge Your Long-held Beliefs
Something we are seeing a lot of lately is the phenomenon of Cognitive Dissonance. Brexit. Trump. Creationism. Religion. Terrorism. People are not only refusing to accept new evidence or listen to different points of view, they double-down on their own position, regardless of what they are presented with. Take Trump, for example. Most rational people thought it was a bad … Read More
Why Goal Setting Is Important
It’s January 1st 2018, traditionally a time to reflect on the previous year and look back at achievements made. It is also a time to decide what goals you should set yourself for the forthcoming year. But why is this important? If you were on a boat, setting sail on the high seas, you would want to know where you … Read More
17 Years Not Out
Vikki and I had our 17th anniversary on the 18th October. She was just 17 when we got together (nearly 18 – her birthday is on 23rd), but that small fact means that I have been a part of her life for HALF of her life. That is crazy. What is crazier though is the fact that we have made … Read More
Accepting Your Limitations
When I was in my early twenties I decided the following: 1) That I was going to win a Grammy 2) I was going to win an Oscar 3) I was going to be Mr Olympia Not only had I decided on those three things, I determined that they would be within the SAME YEAR! Nothing like setting your goals … Read More
Declutter Your Life
Something prompted a bit of a cleaning spree recently (the visit of Vikki’s mum) and, like most cleaning sprees, it concentrated on surfaces. Sparkling sides, polished cupboards, hoovered floors. Lovely. But what about all that crap that lurks behind those cupboards? The wardrobe that is practically bursting with clothes? The chest filled with DVDs… That last one? Guilty. To fit … Read More
Relationships Don’t Have To Be Bad
I see and read so much about bad relationships. People rarely stick together through richer and poorer, ’til death do us part any more. And it is a real shame. Let’s backtrack and ask the most pertinent of questions: why do people seek a partner? Sex? Romance? Procreation? Yes, some of that to an extent, but the biggest reason should … Read More
My Gap Year
It’s a little later than most, but I have come to the conclusion that 2017 is my long overdue gap year. I didn’t realise it was going to be when January 1st hit and, to be honest, I had no reason to think that this year would be any different to previous years, filled with lots of hard work reaching … Read More
Open Minds Wanted
I spent a large portion of my life being closed-minded. I made my decision about something, someone, and stuck with it. Not only did I stick with it, I may have mocked or ridiculed. We are all, to a larger or lesser degree, closed-minded. Seems to me that we are born that way, probably some kind of protective mechanism dating … Read More
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